My Teaching Philosophy
Be the best version of you!
Hello Music Fans!
Sorry it took me so long to write again since my last blog. I have obviously failed on my goals of doing a "weekly" thing! Time got away from me and I had a lot of good reasons as to why.
But I digress... I wanted to talk about singing and being your authentic self. IT IS HARD! It is hard for a plethora of reasons. However, I feel that mostly it boils down to this: artists are sensitive and sensitive people usually want approval (can we say people pleasers?). We need approval right? We need approval to have an audience, to collaborate with fellow artists, to be chosen by directors or producers... it's sort of required that we are approved in the industry.
Well, sort of...
See here is the deal. As a singer, YOU are the instrument. So it's hard not to take it personally when someone doesn't like your voice, or you get a bad review from a music critic. You feel that you own all of the mistakes, all the technique mishaps, and maybe just maybe you're not cut out for this gig after all.
That's where tenacity comes in - and accepting where you are and WHO you are. I have this core believe that we are all created by God with individual gifts, talents and callings. It is really easy to forget that when things aren't moving at a face pace - or rejection seems like an inevitable outcome.
There is a two fold problem that I think is connected with all of this.
1. You put your worth into what your voice can do.
2. You compare yourself with other singers.
1. "You put your worth in what your voice can do."
Confession: When I was in graduate school, I kept referring to "my voice is this... my voice does that... my voice bothers me today..." and my voice teacher just looked at me with a loving frustration but basically said, "Megan, you do realize that your voice is you, right?" Well.... okay! I was looking at my voice as some demonic entity that had its own super powers that I had no control over. THAT WAS A GAME CHANGER. Sure, since then there are moments when I feel like I'm not totally connected with the tissues in my throat that happen to vibrate... but seriously - at the end of the day, it IS me. I need to LOVE myself to love my voice. I don't have the biggest voice in the room. I have a fast vibrato. Certain notes don't sound as good in my range as others. There are certain arias I will NEVER sing. And I will ALWAYS consider myself a work in progress. But I refuse to put my own personal worth in what my voice can do. I was created for greater things than that, and honestly I'm not up for that kind of neuroticism. It's just way too much pressure. Like, seriously.
So please, accept yourself, your body, and own your voice because it is you after all.
2. "You compare yourself with other singers."
STOP. STOP. STOP! Are you for real? We just got done talking about putting your worth in what your voice can do and instead accepting yourself in the body (instrument) God gave you. With all this being said, WHY WASTE YOUR TIME COMPARING WITH OTHERS. Let me shout it for those in the back:
WHY WASTE YOUR TIME COMPARING WITH OTHERS?!?!
As singers we have this AMAZING gift. What is it? We possess this amazing capacity to sound like nobody else. An oboe will always sound like an oboe. A violin will always sound like a violin. A trumpet will always sound like a trumpet. Get my point? Sure, different musicians can create new sounds on these instruments and make them "sing" by the way they play them, but the instrument's timbre will always stay the same.
As for me, I will sound like Megan Poff. I will not sound like Jay Poff (my husband... hi honey). Or Maria Callas, or Barbara Streisand, or God forbid, Shakira (although I do a really spot on imitation of her!). True story... I won't sound like anyone else but myself. Why? Because MY BODY is my instrument. My throat is MY THROAT which is apart of MY BODY. So it is a colossal waste of time for me to compare myself with other singers. It's okay to be inspired by them, motivated by them, learn from them... but don't compare yourself to them. It will honestly get you nowhere. Teddy Roosevelt said, "Comparison is the thief of joy." So quit stealing your own joy!
Which leads me to my last point....
I get so excited when a new student comes to my studio. I enjoy the challenge of figuring out what kind of instrument they are, what motivates them, what challenges them, what music inspires them. And after which seems like the inquisition of twenty questions and beyond... I just say this:
"You have come here to be the best version of yourself."
- Meg
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